Humor Thursday

My fellow St. Louisan, Kathleen Madigan, makes me proud to have grown up there!

If you’re not in charge of your life, then who is?

(Originally published March 21, 2011)

I’ve seen three movies during the past few days, and they all looked at how people (or in one case, a lizard) dealt with destiny. In two cases, the lead characters shook off adversity and overcame personal doubt to achieve greatness. In the third, the characters’ lives were prescribed for them, and they did little more than accept their fate.

One movie, of course, was Rango, which Roger Ebert described as “some kind of miracle.” It’s far more than a kids’ movie. It tells the tale of a Walter-Mittyesque lizard who lives a rich fantasy life inside the terrarium in which he’s kept. Then one day, life intervenes, and he finds himself thrown into the desert and a town called Dirt, whose inhabitants include all manner of reptiles, amphibians and other assorted creatures. After adopting the moniker Rango, the lizard spins yarns of derring-do and inadvertently kills one of the town’s nemeses, a huge hawk. He becomes sheriff and starts to believe the legend that builds up around him, until übervillain Rattlesnake Jake humiliates him. Rango slinks off into the desert, where he has a religious experience, beats down his demons and returns to Dirt humbler and far more heroic.

The second movie was Nowhere Boy, which examines John Lennon’s early life. By all reckoning, Lennon was headed nowhere. He barely knew his father, had an unstable mother and essentially was raised by his Aunt Mimi. He blew off his homework, ticked off his teachers and spent more time with alcohol than a teenager should. But of course, there was the music. Rock ‘n’ roll possessed him. Early on in the movie, in a light-hearted scene, he asks his mother why God couldn’t have made him Elvis, to which she replies: “Because he was saving you for John Lennon.” Obviously, she was right, but no one knew that at the time. It took John’s passion, drive, dedication (and a fortuitous partnership with Paul McCartney) to make John Lennon what he became. He made no excuses about how his past limited him. He simply pushed forward in pursuit of his dream.

The third movie? Never Let Me Go, based on the novel by Kazuo Ishiguro. I wanted to see it because my book club chose the book for our April meeting, and I wanted to see how well it migrated over to film. As is usually the case, the book is more nuanced and complete. I’m not sure you’d fully understand the movie without having read the book. The story takes place in the late 20th century. It imagines a world in which clones are created solely for the purpose of providing body parts for humans. Some of the clones are raised at Hailsham, a relatively idyllic setting in which they get to explore art, literature, music, science and math before fulfilling their destiny as donors. Two female clones and a male become involved in a kind of love triangle. One of the females “completes,” which is the euphemism for dying after one too many donations. The other two try to defer their duty as donors so they can enjoy their time together. It had been rumored that deferrals might be possible for some clones, but they learn that the rumor is untrue. They then accept both their disappointment and their fate and head for the operating table.

One continuing argument over the book and movie concerns why the clones don’t do more to fight back. The sad truth is that, of the nearly 7 billion people on earth, most, like the clones, simply fall in line with what they’ve been told is their fate. I’m not Pollyannaish about this. I understand that for billions of people – those in countries like Bangladesh and Darfur – opportunities are limited, and it’s difficult to have a vision beyond day-to-day survival.

But if you’re reading this, odds are good that you can be more than you are today. I’m not saying you can achieve everything John Lennon achieved, and I’m not saying you’ll necessarily achieve your most grandiose dream. But if you work toward that dream, you will be more than you are today. So what’s stopping you? If something is, have a heart-to-heart talk with that person looking back at you in the mirror. Have that Rango-like religious experience (or something deeper), and then go and do. If you don’t do it for yourself, then who will? If you’re not in charge of your life, then who is?

How to find success

(Originally published Feb. 7, 2011)

Since late last year, I’ve been attending a monthly lunch meeting sponsored by Mel Schultz, a prominent Phoenix businessman who, with Jerry Colangelo and David Eaton, owns JDM Partners. Over the years, JDM has built and developed 15 business parks in Arizona and Colorado containing more than 20 million square feet of office, industrial and retail space. The partnership built many of the Phoenix area’s most recognized structures, including Chase Field, US Airways Center, and Comerica Theatre.

On the first Wednesday of each month, Mel brings in a business speaker to talk about a specific topic. Last Wednesday, he spoke himself on the topic of finding success in business.

His points were simple, and you’ve heard them before, but that doesn’t make them any less valid. Among them:

  • Set a big goal for yourself. Mel noted that this doesn’t mean finding a cure for cancer or leading the charge on interplanetary travel. He couldn’t do either of those things himself, he said. The goal has to be something that stretches you but is within your capabilities. It can’t be something you can do in your sleep, or you’ll never push yourself forward to new levels and plateaus.
  • Change the world for the better. Again, this sounds grandiose, but it really means that one way or another, you enrich people’s lives. Mel’s goals have given  people office parks for building their business, stadiums and arenas for enjoying sports teams and resorts to get away and relax. You might give people a novel to enjoy, a training center to develop new job skills, or a new store with unique art to beautify their homes.
  • Be persistent. You have to do your homework, plan your work, and follow the plan. You can’t stop when obstacles crop up, and they always will.
  • It’s not about the money. Mel said he has never gone into a project thinking that it will make him a boatload of money. Instead, he looks for projects that he will enjoy and that will bring satisfaction to him and utility to others. If all you think about is the money, he said, then you’re always hustling for money-making schemes, and you don’t define who you really are and what you really want to do with your life.

Success in business follows success in life, he said, meaning that the traits that lead to success – among them integrity, respect for others, great curiosity and a desire to learn – are the foundation for every positive achievement we make in life.

Mel closed by noting that in business, relationships are everything. Nothing of lasting value gets done alone; collaboration is key, so it’s important to look for competent people you can trust and confide in.

So what does this mean for you? Choose people you trust to help you find success, and work together with them so you can all be successful in life and in business.